I am not sure even where to begin with this post. 4 years ago Cirdan's daughter was born. VERY LONG story short....his ex (Sarah) wanted her then boyfriend to be Ava's daddy and didn't let Cirdan see her. He took her to court and after a DNA test he was able to meet his little girl when she was about 8 months old. They fought in court and after spending over $20,000 in fees he just couldn't fight any longer. He could not compete with Sarah's dad and the money he was forking out. The last time he saw his little girl was around Sept 2006 when Ava was about 15 months. He has been in contact with Sarah over the years trying to be a part of his daughters life...but each time she has an excuse. Now's not the right time...Ava is too fragile...she has all the love she needs....etc. There is a lot more to the story but that is the basics....
WELL...
Sarah is trying to move. She wants to move with Ava thousands of miles away so they can live with her boyfriend. To do this she has to go back to court and adjust the parenting plan. This has been a huge blessing.
Another long story short...Cirdan got to see Ava on June 20th for 2 hours. This was the 1st time he has seen her in about 3 years. It was also the same weekend as Father's Day which made this Father's Day one of the best. Their visit was at the mall so they played in the toy area, ate pretzels and opened presents he had brought her because her birthday was on the 18th. He also was able to see her this past Saturday. The visits are going extremely well and Ava has definately warmed up to Cirdan.
A court date is scheduled for July 23rd to see if the court will allow Sarah and Ava to move. We hope and pray that the court will not take Ava now and they will see that all these years Sarah has withheld her from all her dad's family. Ava has yet to meet Kaiya, Ella and I. That is supposed to happen on July 18th (a week before they are supposed to move!!!). The good thing is that whatever happens Ava is now apart of our lives. If the court does allow them to move they will have to redo the parenting plan which means that Ava will be flying here a few times a year to stay with us. That isn't what we hope for though. She needs to be here for at least another year to get to know us and to be able to meet her Grandparents, cousins and all the people that have been anxiously waiting for all these years to see this sweet girl.
It has been a very stressful month but hopefully this will all work out for the best...either way we are thrilled at the opportunity to have Ava part of our family.
5 comments:
wow! crossing my fingers it all works out, you're in our thoughts.
Wow is right, sounds like it has been a long road- that must have been such a neat expereince for Cirdan to be able to spend time with his daughter and it sounds there will be more of that to come which will be so special for your family, best wishes with everything!
On a side note, got your message- sorry I haven't gotten back to you yet, it always seems I'm in the middle of something now that all of the kids are home for summer. I'd love to hear about what plan you have found, after the baby is born when we're in a position to switch insurance carriers and look at our different family plan options I'll give you a call for sure!
I hope everything works out for your family. What a long road it must've been to get here. Our best wishes that everything will get situated the way you hope.
What a hard situation, I hope that everything works out for you guys:)
Wow! I had no idea Cirdan couldn't see his own daughter. I do hope it all works out for your family and Ava.
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